Small talk, in my experience, is one of those life skills that doesn't get easier the more you practice. Even for me, a person who enjoys chatting with people I don't know well, small-talk panic is always at risk of setting in: when I realize I've gotten their name or hometown wrong, for example, or that we've run out of things to say halfway through the bathroom line at the bar. My colleague Gilad Edelman has a helpful fix for such moments: Go ahead and talk about the weather. 'We want to talk about the weather because it is on our minds, and it is on our minds because it matters,' he writes. 'It determines how we dress, the plans we make, what we'll cook for dinner, whether we catch that flight.' Ultimately, good small talk, as Gilad notes, gets people involved and animated. So when you're stuck in a new group at a holiday party or don't know what to say to your cousin's new partner, you can always rely on a good long discussion about the odds the snow will stick this winter....
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