You knew the conversation would be tricky because you had to tackle someone about their misbehavior. Maybe it was a colleague who claimed your work idea as their own; maybe it was a new friend who said nasty things behind your back; or maybe it was a romantic partner who was unfaithful. The evidence is incontrovertible'so much so that, had the boot been on the other foot, you would be confessing your error and asking for forgiveness. But that's not this person's MO. No, in the face of clear wrongdoing, they denied everything. Instead of showing contrition, they counterattacked, maybe even accusing you of the very behavior they committed. To top it off, they played the victim and cast you as the real offender. The whole interaction left you upset and confused'even questioning your perception. Is it possible that you got the whole thing backwards' Congratulations, you have just been mugged by DARVO, an acronym that stands for 'Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.' DARVO is a...
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